Boosting Your Self-Esteem

self confidence

It is important that you have a good opinion of your self-worth or self-value. 

We all should have high self-esteem.  Your self-confidence will diminish if you feel that you have low self-worth.  Having a low self-esteem can deprive you greatly of the fulfilling life you were meant to have, where your self-worth and self-respect are energised and valued by both you and others. 

Low self-esteem can take you on a journey of negative self-talk that can lead to a negative self-image.  It takes strength of character and an enormous self-belief to emerge from the downward spiral of low self-esteem.

Many people have a self-image that is not what they would regard as their ideal self. 

How would you rate your own self-esteem on a scale of 1 – 10? 

If your score is under 7, then you should seriously consider looking at a way of boosting your self-esteem. 

Building Self-esteem begins with having Self-respect.

Achieving self-respect is the first step in building self-esteem.  So then, how do you boost self-respect?

To begin building your self-respect, it is helpful to take part in confidence building activities. Such action can give you a real confidence boost and will, in turn, help you to gain self-respect.  Building self-confidence is not only important for adults, but for developing confident kids as well.

Why is it important to have a high self-esteem?


  • You will gain more respect from others
  • You will have more self-confidence to take on new challenges, boosting your self-worth
  • You will be happier, feeling better about your self-worth
  • You will attract more friends, improving your self esteem
  • You will be far more successful in life, achieving the things that are important to you
  • You will have much more fun and be a happy person to be around


1         Recognise Your Limiting Belief System

A LIMITING BELIEF is a perception of something that is not true about yourself and prevents you from reaching your full potential.  Limiting beliefs are often created from your own feelings of inadequacy. They may have come from learnt behaviours or can be passed on from others. 

This inaccurate viewpoint is often built up over many years and reinforced by those around you who may think in a similar way. These inaccuracies generate negative thoughts that can cause great harm or frustration, and can develop into long term damaging assumptions, affecting one’s self-respect and self-esteem.

Limiting beliefs hold you back from discovering your true passions, happiness, and true fulfilment.  They stifle your capacity to learn and grow.  A limiting belief system impacts heavily on your self-esteem because it disempowers you.

2        Identify your limiting beliefs

You need firstly to identify your individual limiting beliefs around your self-worth and make deliberate amends to eradicate these self-esteem-damaging thoughts.

By identifying the specific areas of your life where limiting beliefs are holding you back from achieving success, you need to ask yourself…

  • Where did your limiting beliefs come from and why?
  • Is it of your own making?
  • Is it from your parents, family, friends, or colleagues?
  • Is it your environment? Is it difficult at school or in the workplace?
  • How do you perceive yourself?
  • How do you think others perceive you?
  • Is it a false perception of yourself?

Identify these limiting beliefs by making a list and writing down which areas of your life you wish to change.  A change is the only way forward to boost self-esteem, transforming your thought processes into positive ones, thereby improving your overall self-image.

Areas for change may be…

  • Your behaviour and the way you speak to others
  • Your health, weight, and exercise
  • Your mental health and well-being
  • Your relationships with family, friends, and work colleagues
  • Your body image as well as your self-image.
  • Your schooling, study, and career
  • Your attitude towards money, finances, and wealth-building
  • Your happiness… your right to be happy
  • Your dreams for the future… what is important to you

3  Eliminate Negative Thinking

Negative thinking processes need to be challenged, as they hold a huge sway over your self-image.  They will tend to damage creative or clear-thinking processes.  Doubt is a direct result of negative thinking and can be very damaging to both self-worth and self-respect.

4        Take Action on Building Self-Esteem

The only person who can change the situation is you!   

Set Goals to Strengthen Your Self-Esteem

You may be being bullied and it is affecting your self-esteem.  You may feel useless, unworthy, incompetent, or stupid.  

What exactly are you going to do to gain back your self-respect, self-worth, and self-confidence in the particular areas that you have identified?  


  • Distance yourself from negative or bullying people. Spend less time with them.
  • Seek out positive people who build each other up
  • Encourage new friendships that are supportive
  • Look after your health and wellbeing
  • Develop a health program of exercise, weight loss and fun
  • Spend more time building positive family relationships
  • Find new opportunities for career prospects
  • Create a budget to overcome debt and finance traps
  • Create a wealth building program
  • Plan for your dream future-happiness holiday

5        Recreate yourself into the person you want to be…

Letting go of the old beliefs, habits, behaviours means creating a new mindset…YOUR NEW BELIEF SYSTEM



Create your own road map based around your core value system…

  • Have a clear purpose, time frame and always allow for changes
  • Your goals and values should be aligned with each other
  • Take control of every aspect of your life, your values, attitudes, behaviour
  • Build on your strengths for a more solid self-esteem and self-image
  • Accept your imperfections, acknowledge them… just do your best
  • Believe in your own abilities as it will strengthen your self-confidence
  • Always plan ahead because setbacks will happen
  • Allow for slip-ups that will test your resolve and affect your self-respect
  • Stay focused on the goal of building self-esteem your self-confidence.

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