The Secret to Happiness

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We need three elements in our lives to make us happy. 

The three ingredients for a happy life are:


We all need a purpose in life, something that engages us and helps us look forward to the day.  It doesn’t need to be paid work, so long as it is an activity that gives us connection and interaction.


We need someone in our lives to share the good and the bad.  Someone who cares about us, someone to love.


We don’t need heaps to make us happy.  We just need a modest amount to feed, clothe and house ourselves with a bit left over for pleasure and to save.

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What makes for a Happy Life?

If you are lacking in any of the above three elements of happiness, you must first BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.

What is Happiness?

Be Happy

Happiness means different things to different people. Happiness to some means success. To others it has more to do with looks, height or achievements in life.

Happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being, often defined as “living a good life”.  Happiness can also be described as being at peace with oneself… being at one with who we are.

How to be happy

When you are feeling unhappy you have one of two choices .. to stay in that frame of mind or to change your thoughts and your thinking.  We all have the capacity to choose to feel differently or to stay in that negative, self destructing state.  Remember, no-one can make you feel unhappy. It is your choice to be this way and to stay there.  We have choices in every situation. We all have choices.

Our thoughts are what define us, our thinking, both good and bad.  In one day our thoughts can vary depending on what we have to do or what we don’t get done, who does or doesn’t talk to us.  How we start the day often determines our mood for the day.

We need to look at the reasons why people become unhappy.  It is because they allow people, situations, events and things to influence their thinking.   To change your thinking can be confronting and challenging. We have a new opportunity every day to wake up and look afresh at life through new thinking.  To change your frame of mind, use some self talk.  Tell yourself you are a changed person and others will not change or influence your thinking because you have decided to be happy.  

The Power of Positivity

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Positivity is a powerful strength in any given situation. Smile more, be friendly and be interesting to be around. Ignore comments that are not positive.  Look happy, smile and stay happy.

Have a happy attitude to life. You will be surprised how much your demeanor will change others’ behaviour. Whenever a situation arises, realize that you have a choice and become the person you want to be.  It is possible to change your situation and if necessary, to change your friends.

Chris Sheldon
Diploma Graduate, Australian Institute of Professional Counsellors (AIPC)

We need three elements in our lives to make us happy.