Your Belief System
To be both successful and happy, it is very important to believe in yourself. Our beliefs are generally formed in childhood. We have learnt these beliefs from our parents, our environment and the world around us.
Our patterns of behaviour and attitudes are formed when, as young children or teenagers, we watch and learn about attitudes and behaviours from our parents, teachers and any outside influences we are exposed to. We learn about what is acceptable and what is not, and we start forming our own opinions and belief systems, based on our own experiences. These are our shaped and learnt behaviours. We learn that being polite is rewarded and that being rude is not acceptable.
When processing new information or experiences as an adult, those core beliefs systems that we have formed and adopted in our early years can sometimes be challenged, but mostly we go back to our core beliefs as that is where we feel secure.
The Problem of Self Doubt
Core beliefs of parents are handed down the generations and they form the basis for our sometimes flawed, incorrect belief systems. When this happens, we can become self-doubters, feel insecure and unnecessary anxiety can take hold. We begin doubting ourselves and fighting against these ingrained beliefs proves to be very difficult. To work through these, we need to have a positive mindset because overcoming limiting beliefs can be challenging.
In life, we limit ourselves with these learnt limiting self-beliefs that somehow we focus on when faced with new challenges, like entering a new career or trying out something completely different.
Also, others can influence our thinking very easily, if we let them, putting up blockers for our vision for the future that we have set for ourselves. Peer pressure can play a role in confusing us at times when we want to break out of the mould and set our sights on something personally challenging. Others will have their own limiting mindset, so don’t be influenced by them. We can listen and may take their advice. We can ask others but we must draw our own conclusions.
Don’t let others stand in the way of what you really want to do. Parents, friends and associates may criticise, or their comments may come from the best of intentions, but do your own research and listen to someone who has a more open mind. If they are someone that you can bounce ideas off, you will respect their advice. Listen to them and ultimately make up your own mind.
ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE. THE SKY IS THE LIMIT!
Don’t let go of the dreams, passions and values you have set down for yourself. Having put these in place, ultimately the decision is yours. The sky is the limit when facing new challenges. Anything can be achieved if you believe in yourself.
Believe in yourself, believe that things will happen. Change will take place as you grow and learn. Don’t go through life missing opportunities. Grab them with both hands when they come along; learn, act and inspire others to do the same.
How to Change your MINDSET
Having made the decision, don’t doubt your abilities. If you need to take steps to improve your skills, do so. Do everything in your power to achieve your dreams. Your abilities are unique to you and belief in yourself is the first step in your journey to success. You are on your way to YOUR FUTURE SELF.
Every morning of every day, say to yourself, “I BELIEVE IN ME. I am capable of so much. I am willing to learn everything it takes to be successful, for I am going to succeed and go forward in my life, because I am ME. I am Positive and Confident”.
We all suffer from nerves. It can happen to anyone. It happens to famous musicians before going on stage. We actually need such feelings of fear to spur us on to overcome things… when we are starting a new job, meeting new people, taking on a new challenge, sitting for an exam, having to give a speech in front of a group of people, maybe your peers. These nerves can affect us in everyday life and can cause ANXIETY and SELF-DOUBT and it can affect some of us more than others.
I am a strong believer in SELF-TALK . Look in the mirror and tell yourself how good you are, what skills you have, how you are so capable at particular skills. Look yourself in the eye and say you can overcome what’s holding you back with thoughts of SELF DOUBT. Tell yourself you are going to change, you’re going to be a more positive person who always looks for opportunities and is grateful and thankful for opportunity and everything around you.
Your attitude towards everything should be from a positive mindset and this is critical to your success and belief in yourself.
